Sunday, November 16, 2008

On luck & hardwork

Surabhi has written about luck and hardwork here.....An interesting topic for the current times when economies are shrinking, jobs are being slashed and the consequences of irrational lending in the USA are being felt in the town of Tirupur in southern India..

As Indians, we are exposed to the concepts of 'karma' & 'destiny' early on in life..It sets the context for all explanations that are made for the successes and losses we make in life.. If you win, its your 'karma'; if you lose, its your 'destiny'.. It is an approach where we hold ourselves accountable neither for the successes we achieve nor the defeats we face. A form of humility that prevents irrational exhuberance. But, it doesnt necessarily ask us to give up the strings of control to our life. Unfortunately, in our society today, we use these concepts to promote a lack of discipline, systematic approach and self-control. The famed 'middle-class' mentality in India is to 'tolerate'...Tolerating, not out of acceptance or appreciation ...rather out of a sense of 'helplessness'..'What can I do to change this anyways'... ' यह सब भाग्य का खेल हैं '...

The reality is that not everyone works hard ( there is a difference between 'wanting' and actually acting on the want).. Not everyone wants to be an IAS officer desperately enough.. I had the good fortune of watching(over a period of time) some labourers constructing a house near my home recently. What I learnt just proves that those who desperately want to be different and want to achieve, will make the efforts to grow and achieve better results. I could see different kinds of people in those labourers - people who were diligent but not motivated enough to find an easier or better way of doing things, people who were smart but lazy, people who were smart and hardworking but wasting time in useless debates and people who were smart, hardworking and focussed on learning and growing from their experience - All of this in a group of some 10-12 labourers.

Luck and hardwork arent mutually exclusive..to some extent luck is made from a process of 99% perspiration.. If you work hard AND are actively thinking - your mind will develop the skill of identifying the patterns you need to identify. Those who want to 'desperately' succeed are those who have a 'passionate' view of what success means. This passion helps them in remaining motivated as well as in the process of seeking guidance and advise.

This even works in love - We seek love of the type that we know and have recieved in our growing up years. It is not a surprise that children whose parents were in a bad relation often end up in a similar relation themselves. The 'chemistry' that we talk about is 'learned behavior'. In my teenage, I often used to seek company of girls who were not considered conventionally beautiful..This was a result of my upbringing - My family actively discourages focus on physical beauty and I felt strangely powerful in being able to ignore the charms of falling for the 'babe' in the batch. Similarly, women often seek men who have some elements of their father's/brother's behavior..

Feelings are learned behavior.. Kids whose parents are not very openly appreciative, often grow up to becoming uncomfortable with praise. As young adults, our assessment of 'attractiveness' is based both on hormonal elements and on behaviors that we have learnt to appreciate in the growing up years.

If you want something 'desperately' enough, you'll learn to become smart about it. The only criteria is are you looking deep enough within yourself in that process of desperation.. If you are desperate and willing to use the shortcut of blaming 'external' factors - your luck is bound to fall apart very often!

Saturday, December 08, 2007

'If IT Is Going To Take Away Our Values, Burn Bangalore, Burn IT'

Once again..our mindset just defeats us...A man of Mr.Rao's stature making such generalised comments is a disappointment.

As for the PhDs, that's just an academic view..The world hasnt changed due to PhDs....If I meet that NRI, I might as well as ask him/her -> 'What have all those Indian PhDs in the US , Europe or Australia, done for their nation ? '..Arts and scientific research need money to bloom..Just as excess money will cause doom for the quality of work coming from there...That's a thin line...Leave the free market economy and a democratic society to operate and that balance will occur.

In most areas, no one has made a breakthrough discovery in their PhD thesis..And those that did, wont need a PhD to qualify their breakthrough.

Bangalore's woes are a necessary evil of any economy that grows rapidly...Could we get better public administration....Absolutely yes!!!!! Musical chairs in the political domain hurt any city. All urban areas of India are being led by short sighted politicians who rush to profess rural roots. Nothing wrong with having rural roots...But a nation our size in terms of population , can barely find land and food in the rural structure , for everyone.

Bangalore's early rulers were visionaries of their times. None of the current breed of politicians or administrators of Bangalore can claim to be visionaries.There are the good guys..but the complacent and incompetent largely outnumber those good guys ...Add to that , our tendency to simply wash all dirt to the shores of every bureacrat and blame the government for everything..And what we get is an endless blame game where all fingers point elsewhere.

Why blame the IT guy for what's happening to Bangalore... Isnt it a job of the public administrators to proactively identify growth related and influx related problems at social, demographic and functional levels ? In every profession , there are a few who will lead a consumption oriented life..to paint a complete set of professionals or business as greedy or consumerist...Now that's unfair and stupid.

At the root of all this , is a basic human instinct..Jealousy. Well meaning people come up with active ways and means to change the society..Not armchair criticism and generalised statements about the decline of values. Every generation thinks that the generation after it has lost its values...human nature ..Passive notion of ' How we were better'..

It is shameful that the environment of Bangalore is being torn by a subculture of pseudo-intellectuals who encourage the ' Us' versus 'The Outsider' theme. The romance of old Bangalore may never come back...Lets bury that and raise a toast to the jobs that all these changes have created.


We have problems..We arent perfect..There is a long way to go..But damn anyone who wants to burn this .....In this hazy unruly dawn, a future is evolving...A future that can include more Indians in growth that we have ever been able to. If you can, please join in shaping that future ..through actions and interest....Write about what you can do to change your concern into a plan of action...This nation has suffered through years of armchair idealogues and idealogy or slogan chasing politicians...lets shut up and get our hands dirty.

Sunday, June 03, 2007

The 'ists' and 'isms'

Shubha posts a blog about the pragmatic feminist..

I am amazed by the extensive amounts of time and bandwidth, that people spend, to fit themselves in the boxes of idealogies, religions or national identity..At the end of the day, we are all unique individuals with unique circumstances in unique lives!

Idealogies ..the 'isms ' ..are a hat and a pair of colored lenses..Great to gain some perspective & some cool shade...You take what you can and move on with the business of life...

Science has taught us that there are no infallible laws....The 'isms' are an academic garb for those who want to standby and watch...The real fun is in taking these 'isms' and soaking them up with the other 'isms' to create your own perspective to life....

Loyality to any 'ism' is harmful to the psychological health of a human being...Such loyalities deprive you of the ability to be the unique , one in a gazillion ' You '.

Saturday, April 14, 2007

Relations beyond .......

An interesting post here by Pradyot on globalisation of cultures & inter-community relations...

'Intellectuals' ( as the media calls them) are often susceptible to the bias that their ideas and opinions are inherently superior and should be practiced by the masses. Such biases tends to make them divide the world between the 'enlightened ' ones and the 'ignorant' ones.

However, I'd like to point that the 'diversity' that Pradyot talks about, stems from the cross-fertilisation of cultural identities.

This churn of inter-racial,inter-cultural relations brings about an evolution in the cultural foundations of the society....Living in Canada, I see a lot of this happening....A society learns through these relations....they may never be the majority of relationships in a society, but they are the critical catalyst of social change.

Diversity stems from having multiple communities of like minded people who setup various rituals of living and prescribe certain standard operating procedures for various milestones in life!

Friday, January 05, 2007

Do the Evolution

One of the songs that reminds me constantly of human behavior............" Do the Evolution" by Pearl Jam..........

Woo..
I'm ahead I'm a man
I'm the first mammal to wear pants yeah
I'm at peace with my lust
I can kill 'cause in God I trust yeah
It's evolution baby

I'm at piece I’m the man
Buying stocks on the day of the crash
On the loose I'm a truck
All the rolling hills I’ll flatten’ em out yeah
It's herd behavior uh huh
It's evolution baby

Admire me admire my home
Admire my song here's my coat
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
This land is mine, this land is free
I'll do what I want but irresponsibly
It's evolution, baby

I'm a thief, I'm a liar
There's my church, I sing in the choir:
{hallelujah…hallelujah…

Admire me, admire my home
Admire my song, admire my clothes
'Cause we know, appetite for a nightly feast
Those ignorant Indians got nothin' on me
Nothin', why?
Because, it's evolution, baby!

I am ahead, I am advanced
I am the first mammal to make plans, yeah
I crawled the earth, but now I'm higher
Twenty-ten, watch it go to fire
It's evolution, baby {2X
Do the evolution
Come on, come on, come on

Monday, December 11, 2006

Balancing a working life...

Shubha writes a Kannada poem about people who slog their a** off

Well..At the risk of sounding crazy, I think all this talk about 'Work - Life ' balance is a wasted effort.

The well-meaning advice about work hours and the need to spare time beyond office hours for other activities is misplaced when given to guys like me! I still read all that I want to..I still write blogs..I write articles..I write poems..I cook in the kitchen...I spend precious and memorable moments with my wife.I call my parents and in-laws..I talk to friends...All this with a demanding work schedule..And I am not a superhero!

My bosses dont browbeat me into work, I dont get work handed down because I cant refuse....

I dont always chirp happy about work..I crib about it occasionally too..But I love it eventually..

The crux - I love my job..I maximise the potential benefit from every moment of my life..And when I need to disconnect, I can and I will..

I am not a slave to the working hours concept...Within limits of professional situations, I do reorganise work to slots when I feel comfortable doing them. The idea is to enjoy my work and the pressures that come with it..

The joy I get is from doing all that I do, with a sense of purpose and with the hope that every single day, I will paint a clearer big picture of life in my mind!